Not everyone can do something big and expensive. Not everyone wants to. And often, it’s the little things that count.
Here are a few ideas of things you can do to remember your friend:
-Visit their grave, or have flowers sent there on a day that was special only to the two of you.
-If a memorial Facebook page was set up for them, post a comment, just to say you’re thinking about them.
-Play a song that reminds you of them.
-Go someplace you used to go together. Don’t be surprised if you half-expect to see them there.
-Do something they liked to do.
-Write to them. It may sound odd, but just write about how you’re feeling. Maybe reminisce about how you met, the funniest thing you ever did together, a trip you took. Tell them what they meant to you.
-Volunteer for a charity they supported.
-Make a CD of pictures of your friend. Add a soundtrack of their favorite songs. Share it with mutual friends.
-Do something in their memory. Maybe you want to challenge yourself to run a 5K race, or lose 10 pounds. Dedicate your hard work to them.
-Depending on your/their faith, plan a religious observance (Mass, prayer service) on the anniversary of their death, or their birthday.
-Become an organ donor.
-Make the time to call another friend.
-If you have a picture of the two of you that makes you happy, get a nice frame and put it in a place of honor in your home.
I believe one of the most human reactions to a person’s death is that we fear they will be forgotten. We despair that others will never know what a great friend we lost.
All of these activities – and many more – help keep a person’s memory alive. “As long as you remember him,” Doctor Who told Amy. “He’s not dead.”
So it is with our friends. They’re always with us.