FriendGrief is a place for you to share your experience grieving the death of a friend. Many people not only suffer a great loss, but also suffer because those around them don't understand or respect their grief.
Viki, Thanks for the link love! Your post has really touched people and there are lots of great comments. I hope you'll feel free to stop by and comment as well. Like I have said, you have a very important mission and message. Delle must be very proud of all you are doing right now :-)
Anger and angry. They're not usually perceived as being positive or necessary or productive, and yet as you say they are often a necessary part of processing grief and loss.
Is it that we don't like to admit the feeling or is it that it manifests in different ways in different people, anger can be internalised and suppressed, cause frustration, stress or it can be turned outward and be expressed loudly, physically even violently.
Personally, I know that when I feel anger, I try to understand it and try not to dwell or stay with that emotion but to search for other ways to understand what has happened.
That said, I have definitely learned lessons from those who express their anger freely and vociferously, because I have seen that they often move on quite quickly having released this pent up energy - as long as we minimise the negative effects on others, it can be liberating to express the anger and move on.
Thanks for your inspiring post and the guest post - very moving and thought provoking.
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Viki,
Thanks for the link love! Your post has really touched people and there are lots of great comments. I hope you'll feel free to stop by and comment as well. Like I have said, you have a very important mission and message. Delle must be very proud of all you are doing right now :-)
Anger and angry. They're not usually perceived as being positive or necessary or productive, and yet as you say they are often a necessary part of processing grief and loss.
Is it that we don't like to admit the feeling or is it that it manifests in different ways in different people, anger can be internalised and suppressed, cause frustration, stress or it can be turned outward and be expressed loudly, physically even violently.
Personally, I know that when I feel anger, I try to understand it and try not to dwell or stay with that emotion but to search for other ways to understand what has happened.
That said, I have definitely learned lessons from those who express their anger freely and vociferously, because I have seen that they often move on quite quickly having released this pent up energy - as long as we minimise the negative effects on others, it can be liberating to express the anger and move on.
Thanks for your inspiring post and the guest post - very moving and thought provoking.
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